I wanted to talk about pornstars in relationships in their lives outside of their jobs. Is it possible for someone whose occupation is having and filming sex to be in love with someone? I feel like most conservative people will say no and that it is unethical. I am not the one to judge because it isn’t my life, but if it is possible to love when you are in the porn industry then why not. I think sex would be ruined and it wouldn’t be as sentimental.
How would a lady who has meaningless sex for money essentially be able to have compassionate sex with their partner? On the other side how could the partner who may not be in the porn industry not be jealous or fed up with their loved one having sex with several other people? I feel as if a pornstar is in a relationship it constitutes everything that a relationship is not supposed to be, which is to not commit adultery, but at the end of the day these are people and they can decide what they want with their lives. It also raises the question what is a relationship and can you be in an open relationship. Sure, they would receive a lot of backlash being in a relationship, but who is to say they cannot love someone. It is tough to talk about it when we aren’t in their shoes, but it is an interesting topic.
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I don’t think love necessarily has to revolve around sex, meaning that it isn’t needed to fuel the emotion of love. So, I do think that it is possible for someone with this occupation to be in love. But I do agree with you that the sex in a relationship would be ruined and it wouldn’t be as sentimental if one of the partners were in the sex industry. Porn stars are making money, it’s their occupation and their job. The difference between the sex for work and the sex for their personal life is emotion and I think that’s why relationships could possibly work in the porn industry, if the other partner is okay with it and not jealous or fed up with their partners job. That is just an idea because I’m not sure if it’s valid because it’s not my life either. I do agree that it is tough to talk about it when we aren’t in their shoes because we can’t directly pinpoint how they feel about love, sex and the dating and mating market. This is a good topic for questions and thoughts especially because we did not talk much about this when we discussed pornography. I do think this is important though as the idea of cheap sex and our mating and dating culture is evolving and it’s relation to technology while that is evolving, too. Good topic to point out.
I think it is definitely possible for porn stars to have relationships. If they look at filming porn as work, they can have an emotional detachment and look at it simply as work. This is largely due to the fact that sex has become cheaper and can be utilized as a way to make money. It would definitely be a non-conventional relationship, but if two people love each other enough they could make it work. I think you bring up some great points here, especially the point that asks how someone could have meaningless sex for money but then also have passionate sex with their partner. Although this would be hard to attain, it is definitely possible.
Personally I would be very jealous if my significant other was in the porn industry but it is that person’s personal preference. I feel like if the porn star and their partner could completely separate work life and their relationship, it would definitely be possible for a porn star to have a functioning relationship. They would face some struggles, simply it is human nature to get jealous but if they two people are truly compatible with each other then it could very easily be possible.
While this concept of a relationship or even marriage for a Pornstar is definitely an obscure concept and would not be acceptable for many, I included if people want to be happy and are content with their circumstances who are we to place judgment. Individuals and couples have been having openminded and sexually promiscuous engagements that are outside of their relationships for centuries and the current western nuclear family dynamic might not be the road that some want to go down. I would not say it is impossible or even irregular for these relationships to happen and I’d say if both partners are happy then it is a good thing that all parties are finding happiness despite the untraditional manner.